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seven life lessons I was slow to learn.

The best teacher in my life has been life itself. If I had to teach a life course I would have to admit I usually got it wrong.

I love the quote: “The secret of teaching is to appear to have known all your life what you learned this afternoon”. Anonymous

There will always be people holding up stop signs. You need to make a detour and often find that you end up discovering the new path is a more exciting way to get where you wanted to go in the first place..

My class would include the following life lessons.

  1. Never make a hasty decision on important matters. When I was in nursing school, I met a guy. You know the type, the tall, dark, handsome type, who makes your heart beat fast and makes you giddy with excitement. Before long, he was transferred across the country. He asked me to follow him. I threw my education out the window and moved. It has been 45 years and we are still happily married, but the point is, I gave up my education on a whim. Don’t do that. You will need it.
  2. Make good  friends and keep them. I am the bad example. I have lost good friends through neglect on my part. I have lost the closeness I once had with some and totally lost contact with others.  Do not let them get away. I often feel sad because I do not have a best friend. It is easier to stay in touch in this age, with Facebook and email and all the techy contact we have, however face to face interaction is vital.
  3. Stay humble, forgive and be willing to say you are sorry. Family members hurt each other sometimes. Friends say things. We all make mistakes. Always make an effort to patch things up. Take the initiative to make it right. I have seen too many families torn apart with misunderstandings. Do not be too proud to make the first move.
  4. Set goals.  I mean a lot of goals. These should be flexible but you need to start with what is in your heart. Write out a bucket list. Fill it with your dreams. Big dreams like retiring early and small dreams like learning to ski. I wish I had done that. I never heard of a bucket list when I was young, in fact, it seemed a womans goal back then should be to get married, have children and … ummm… well, that was it. So that is what I did. Years went by, kids grew up and suddenly, there I was, aimlessly going through life, my mission accomplished. Once I crawled out of the depression hole I found myself in, I wrote a bucket list and I am blissfully working towards completing my goals
  5. Do not waste your sunny days.Be adventurous. Be spontaneous. Never stay home because the laundry needs to be done or the lawn needs mowing. We had a lot of fun with our children on the days we jumped in the car to go get groceries and ended up a hundred miles away hiking in the forest, the grocery shopping abandoned, simply because it was a sunny day.

    Don’t waste your sunny days

  6. Don’t worry. We all know worry doesn’t change anything. Worry is stressful, it is a waste of time and energy. Most often, we worry about things that will never happen. It is as if we are waiting for the shoe to drop. Think of the times you have worried in the past. What happened? Did it help to worry about it first?  Instead, go for a walk, go shopping, watch a funny movie. Learn to distract yourself. When a crisis does hit your life, and it will, you will somehow find the strength to accept it and deal with it as best you can. Just look at all your options and pray.
  7. Make sure you are happy. That sounds obvious but too many people work at a job they hate, with a boss that expects them to work overtime, leaving them drained and tired. Family life suffers. You suffer. Before it is too late, find another job, go back to school if you have to, but don’t settle for mediocre. Aim to get the job that makes your heart happy. Remember your goals.

I could go on, and I might, but not today, I need to go out and play. Oh, this  is important, maybe it should be number one.. Do not ever think you are too old to PLAY.

Let’s play

Time to Review My Bucket List

Some may suggest it is morbid to make a bucket list, thinking of things to do before you die. Make no mistake, I do not plan on keeling over the day after I check off my last item, in fact, my list is continually evolving and changing as I age. I imagine one day, sitting around the nursing home, my list may simply include staying awake while watching TV, or walking to the dining room unaccompanied. I hope I will always have things I want to do because motivation is invigorating and setting goals is motivating.

I have had a bucket list for a long time. It wasn’t formal, I just knew I wanted to do certain things. a few years ago I made a formal list.

I like to dream, I like to plan. I am afraid of wasting my years living a humdrum existence, so I get involved, I volunteer and want to be a better person. Not for others, but simply for me, for my satisfaction.  I find it helps me to know my inner self, my true desires. I have become more aware of who I am. We all have many roles we play, between work and home, with family and friends, the community, socially, at church, we wear many hats and we have expectations placed upon us by others. A bucket list is not about expectations, it is about desires.

I think a bucket list reflects who you are and what is important to you. There are a lot of fun things and adventurous things on my list and I hope some things that will make me grow as a person.

If you do not yet have your dreams listed, I hope this will inspire you.

My Bucket List

  • Go for a Hot Air Balloon ride
  • Write a novel
  • Have my novel published
  • learn to play the guitar
  • Take a cruise on the Amazon River
  • visit Chile
  • travel to India and the Himalayas
  • See a polar bear in the wild.
  • Paint a truly beautiful painting
  • Win a photography competition
  • Weigh under 140 lbs
  • Run a 5km race.
  • walk a half marathon race (completed)
  • Travel to Newfoundland
  • Hike the West Coast trail
  • Sleep in a yurt.
  • Climb  on the highest peak in the Rocky Mountains, Mt Robson.(completed)
  • Learn cross-country skiing.
  • Learn to Juggle.
  • Travel to the Arctic (completed)
  • Visit San Francisco and ride the cable car
  • Repell down a very high cliff
  • Go para-sailing
  • Go hang-gliding
  • Travel to Japan
  • Eat in a sidewalk cafe in Paris
  • Go on a meditation retreat.
  • Read every book of the Bible
  • Get my Scuba Diving license
  • Fly first class
  • Volunteer with “Operation Christmas Child” to deliver the boxes.
  • Dip my toe in the Arctic Ocean.
  • Stand on the Arctic Circle (completed)
  • Take a flying lesson (completed)
  • Visit all 50 American States
  • Visit all 10 Canadian Provinces and 3 Territories.
  • Go to at least 25 Zumba classes
  • Ride in a helicopter (completed)
  • Travel the Oregon Coast
  • Spend New Years Eve at Times Square.
  • Go to the Olympics
  • Travel to Africa and go on a safari Completed)
  • Stand on the Equator (completed)
  • Retire early (completed)
  • See the Grand canyon (Completed)
  • Volunteer at a food bank or soup kitchen
  • Go bird-watching at Point Pelee park during the fall or spring migration
  • Win a writing contest
  • Join an organization with a humanitarian cause
  • Organize all my old photos (a large box full) into albums.